04 mars, 2008

The calm after the storm

I don't think I've ever mentioned before that Roomie#1 was planning on moving out this summer. This is the same girl who was 100% moving back to Portsmouth, England this past September where she spent a year and a half a few years back. This is also the same girl who after the England plan went to crap, decided she would be buying her own apartment somewhere in Rennes. Over time, she became the girl who was occasionally looking at apartments she could never afford that were available several months before she would move out. About a month back, she mentioned that her new plan was to find an apt to rent on her own. When she told me that, I sort of half-listened knowing that this new plan, just like the others before, would soon change. However, folks, it looks like she has seen a place she really likes and will possibly be moving out as soon as the end of March or April. Nothing is set in stone, but I think it's safe to say with her recently acting as though she were living by herself and my recent rebellion, she is ready to have a place of her own...and, more importantly, so am I.

While I do think this will be a sad change as I look back on all the soirees, stories and sad Sundays spent together, I think it will also be the thing that can save two friends from slowly growing apart. It's difficult to live with friends, though I do know despite that, I still will always prefer to be friends with my roomates rather than simply people who share the same living space. It's a fine line, though, if you hang out too much together, you really start to get on each other's nerves. But, it's hard to create distance on purpose when you share many of the same friends and also don't want to hurt the other person's feelings by not inviting them. I know I will see her less just by living in two separate apartments which is normal, but I hope we will still be able to be as good of friends as we were before.

Like I said, it's not set in stone which is why I was really hesitant to blog about it. But, she and her FB and her mess all over the apartment have been driving me crazy and if this were to continue, it would mean major problems and I just don't want that to happen. So, I am a bit sad about it, but I also think it's for the best. Plus, this means I get her room which is bigger, sunnier, has a built-in placard and no eyesore of a sink! If this does happen, btw, expect a video tour. Yeeee-uh! You didn't really think I could stay serious for an entire post, didya?

PS-I will also keep you updated on le casting of nouveau coloc 2008 which I'm sure, after having gone through that for MONTHS last year, will provide for quite the entertainment!

5 commentaires:

Princesse Ecossaise a dit…

ooh am I first to comment?!

It's always sad when a coloc leaves especially when you've spent some really good times together but sometimes it can really make your friendship a lot better.

When I lived in La Rochelle I moved in with my best friend and it was HELL I tell you, HELL! I hated her and she hated me and I never wanted to see her again. As soon as we moved out of that apartment and didn't see each other 24/7 we were best friends again!

And if she does leave you've all got a great excuse to have a big farewell party (even if she wont be moving far away)!!!

Victoria a dit…

i have been living with my best friend & co-worker for the past year and a half. although he's super fun to be around, it's impossible to get along with everyone all of the time.
i'm looking at living on my own for the first time ever and i can't wait.

will you have to get a new roomie to take your room?

Emily a dit…

My best friend and I lived together for a year and a half and it tore our relationship apart. But only temporarily. Due to a building fire, we moved out of the apartment and lived separately from then on and the relationship came back together soon enough. I learned that I was a terrible roommate and that living on my own was the best thing EVER! I still don't know how my husband deals with me...

nicole a dit…

"even lovers need a holiday" is all i can think of right now. :)

Leah a dit…

PE&Emily-I've never lived with my bestest friend, but I just KNOW she would drive me crazy just like yours did because she would leave stuff all over the place and my OCDness would take over in full force. I have lived with really, really good friends though and it's true that after a certain time it just gets to be too much time spent together. And, PE, excellent idea about the party...I always loves me an excuse to fete it up!

Victoria-An apartment all to yourself? Lucky duck! I will be getting a new roomate to replace Roomie#1, but s/he will be taking my room and I'll take R#1's old room. Woohoo! So excited for that!!

Nicole-Haha. This is true...any two people start to get on each other's nerves if they spend too much time together. And, I'll let you know about the vacances once I know. I'm waiting on my friend who's taking foreverrrrr to decide where she wants to go!